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Monday, April 14, 2014

Being Ginger: My analysis of the film and my experience

Last night I watched "Being Ginger" a new film by actor/director/producer Scott P. Harris.  Below is the plot summary from iTunes:

Plot Summary

"Being Ginger" is a wonderful, illuminating look into the life of the film's maker, Scott P. Harris. At first the film seems to be a comedy about a red haired man trying to find love. But through revealing moments, whimsical animation, and real interviews, a universal story arises. We are all different. We all have aspects of our lives that set us apart from the crowd and greatly affect us. In Scott's case, it's his red hair. Through captivating storytelling, we journey with Scott as he lets the viewer into his thoughts, experiences, and internal processing of how his red hair has influence over his life and how it makes him feel about himself. Finding oneself through finding love and being able to accept it can be experienced by all. So, while the film's title highlights red hair, it is about much, much more. Everyone should watch this film and reflect on what makes them 'ginger' in their own life. And, of course, give a ginger some love.
Scott P. Harris plays himself in the film.   A heterosexual male ginger now in his 30's.  During his childhood and adolescence, Scott seemed to endure lots of teasing/bullying because of his red hair.  He even claims that once a day for a year his entire class would stand up and clap because they hated him.   While that seems extreme, he even interviews the teacher in the film and yes it apparently did happen.
Scott as a person seems damaged with very low self esteem stemming from being mentally battered while he was maturing.  As an adult he seems to have not sluffed off the abuse and carries it with him...evident in the way he approaches other adults his same age.
In the film Scott interviews mostly hetero women and probes their attraction to ginger men.  It seems that most of the women he finds for the film aren't particularly turned on or attracted to ginger men.   Whether its the freckles, the dorkyness, the white eyelashes, the ginger body hair, or the negative stereotypes of ginger men...they all find some reason to explain why they are not attracted.
While this is sad and sorta expected it also validates to a certain extent Scott's low self esteem.
So I decided to write about my experience of "Being Ginger" .  I had a similar experience to Scott's up until the age of about 18-20.  In grade and middle school I was taunted with the average slurs "freckle face" "devils child", etc etc.  Which really didn't bother me that much because...I like freckles.  I didn't really start to have self esteem issues till junior high and high school.  Which isn't unique to being ginger as I would guess all kids going through puberty have insecurities.  
I had a mouth full of braces, a jaw expander, a face dimpled with acne, nappy hair, I was a little fat, and wore clothes from Wal-Mart.  So I was a very easy target lol.  Granted all of these are actually luxuries (#firstworldproblems) as many poor kids would LOVE to have braces, actual shoes, etc.  (Definitely not a pity party for myself...just recounting my experience).
On top of being ginger, I was also a closeted gay kid in a small private christian school in the deep south.  The principal actually prayed over the intercom and we had at times morning devotionals.  Needless to say I was mentally conflicted. I also lived 33 miles away from my school....which meant a 45 minute bus ride each day and no friends to play with after school.  I grew up on a horse farm and understood hard work and chores...but had a hard time with the cuntiness of my classmates.
The constant question from my classmates was about the color of my pubes.  Everyone seemed to be fascinated/grossed out at the thought that I may have ginger pubes.  I was constantly teased about it.  And my eyebrows were translucent blond...I stayed a little sunburned because of lack of sunscreen education which made my white eyebrows stand out even more...my face kinda resembled "Mr. Clean".
Junior high and high school nagged on...I wasn't hopeful about life because my experience with people were that they were assholes....mainly hetero men.  I applied to colleges far away from my hometown and went off to college after high school alone with none of my local peers attending the same one I chose.  What happened was not what I expected.  
College was totally different.  People were nice.  I was on a campus of 9,000 and I actually had the chance to choose my friends...not endure the 24 or so I was stuck in class with.  I was never taunted about my hair color or anything really...it was a completely fun, energetic, learning, and positive experience.  So the notion that I was ginger seemed to disappear and my personality as Seth emerged.
But I need to relate this back to "Being Ginger" as this is what the prose is about.  So after college I finally "officially" came out of the closet.  To parents, friends, Facebook, the whole nine yards.  I was now a gay man in graduate school.  I found love a few times and bought into the idea of owning a home, getting a 9-5, working all week, having a manicured lawn, and drinking on saturdays lol.  That lasted into my late 20's until I grew very bored of this sorta hetero model for life that myself (a gay, sexual, non-monagamous, ginger) had squeezed into.  
So in 2009 I broke into the single life and started traveling.  I started going to big gay events such as Southern Decadence, Altanta Pride, and Gay Days Disney.  What happened was astonishing.  Instead of being taunted for being ginger I was sexualized as a fantasy for so many.  People would stare as I walked by, I would hear stuff like "check out that ginger".  It was completely the opposite attention I was accustomed to receiving from hetero women.
My experience with hetero women is not amazing when it comes to mating/procreation.  On more than one occasion I have had hetero women say to me "I wanna have a baby one day...I just hope it's not a redhead".  So let's say I actually cared what hetero women thought of me...I may have ended up like Scott in the film.  When I experienced all these gay men wanting to jump my bones simply based on my hair color it was quite unexpected.  
Thus as you can imagine...I WAS DELIGHTED!  Finally I didn't feel like the ugly duckling.  All of a sudden... probably about the year 2010...being ginger in the gay world was like being a top in DC or a bottom in Miami  #lucky!
That's when my experience really began to diverge from Scotts...when I embraced and owned my sexuality.  I am REALLY glad I am gay because its so much damn fun!   I contacted Scott and asked him to interview me if he does a follow up film about being ginger.  I also suggested that he include other sexualities in his next film so the audience can get a full idea of what being ginger is like for all sexualities. 
Now I'd like your input!  Are you a hetero person...what do you think of gingers, ginger babies, ginger pubes, etc?  Are you a homo person...what do you think of gingers?
xoxo,
Seth Fornea



Sunday, April 13, 2014

Non-Monogamy and the Complexities of Taste

Disclaimer:  This is a comedy piece about the actual truth of Jared and my relationship.   What we have works amazing for us...I am not advocating this for anyone else...just making light of our sexual freedom.

The other day Jared and I went to the off leash dog park in Raleigh to let our two Chihuahuas play with some other dogs.  It was a sunny day and lots of locals where there as well...which meant lots of dogs of all types.  We went to the "small" dog off leash park because both of our dogs combined weigh less than 9 pounds.  We sat for about an hour, chatting with other dog owners and enjoying watching our two babies play and sniff butts lol.

As we walked back to the car we passed a few dogs arriving...one in particular a collie...just like in the movie Lassie.   Jared burst out with joy and acclimation "Look how beautiful that collie is."  I turned and gave a startled look and replied "wait....you think collies are pretty dogs?"  I for one have never looked at a collie and thought anything remotely attractive existed in that breed....but for Jared's taste, it is one of the most attractive breeds of domestic dogs.

Then a lightbulb went off in my head!  OMG his taste in dogs totally mirrors his taste in men.....and wait....so do mine lol!  For the duration of our relationship we have been open and very sexually liberal.  Naturally we talk about what we find attractive in hookups and each time ones of us sees a hot guy we point it out to the other.   A majority of the time I don't find what he considers hot to be attractive and vice versa (although we both usually agree on Brazilians lol).  It's always very comical...because neither of us can fathom why the adonis we just pointed out is not attractive to the other person lol.

But when he made the comment about the collie dog being beautiful...it dawned on me that he is totally wired differently as to what he percieves as beauty relative to what I perceive.

His favorite breeds of dogs based on physicality are collies, Australian shepherds, golden retrievers, huskies, and shelties.   My favorite breeds are french bulldogs, chocolate labs, chow chows, bloodhounds, and newfoundlands.   He tends to prefer sharper more angular features while I tend to prefer more round bulbous features in dogs.

The comical part is...the same is true for men.  Every guy he points out that he thinks is hot...I usually shake my head at and dub them "the Buzz Lightyears" for their rigid and angular features.  On the same token he always jokes that guys I find attractive are too round in the face.  He likes a big square jaws and I like plump lips.  He likes a pointed nose and I like wide nostrils....the list goes on and on.  It even transcends into body parts....I noticed I wasn't particularly draw to or made salivate by pecs he found attractive either.

I tend to be drawn to rounder pecs with large outward and downward facing nipples.  Jared tends to like more square pecs with smaller closer set nipples.

It's amazing how two people can fall in love and have totally different turn ons.   It's also very fun because it makes for an adventurous life and lots of storytelling the morning after :-)

For you serial monogamists out there who couldn't imagine your better half's tender tits getting tickled by random "Toms"...think of this as window shopping for things you can't have ;-)

So I put together 4 collages of both men and pecs to show you what I mean by what each of use finds "hot".

Hope you and your significant others are talking about turns ons and sexuality too...it's liberating #getintoit!

with love,
Seth

Seth's Hotties



Jared's Hotties



Yummy Pecs for Seth



Yummy Pecs for Jared









Thursday, April 10, 2014

God Save the Fetus!

I really don't think that there are a statistical number of people that are pro-abortion....that would like saying there are people that are pro-death penalty....oh wait there are :/  But that's a whole other blog entry.

I live in North Carolina and I constantly get stuck in traffic behind behind SUV's and sedans with the words "pro life" plastered across the back.

Aren't we all pro life....given the choice wouldn't any of us choose to live rather than die....considering we had good health and life quality.

I can't incubate a fetus so I actually don't really have a say in this...it's more of a woman's right...but I do have an opinion.   It's NOT MY WOMB!  Just as I agree with Oregon's Death with Dignity Act I also agree with a woman's right to choose.

What really gets on my nerves is the conservative rights actions toward children once they are born.  They will do everything in their power (prayer, protests, lobbying, etc) to influence the public opinion on abortion.  GOD SAVE THE FETUS.  But once that baby is born it's pretty clear their opinion is "fuck it".  They don't support social programs that fund early childhood development, welfare programs that feed this child, etc etc etc.  They just want it born...after that good luck surviving a corporate run capitalist democracy.  #thinkaboutit


An Ode to the Odor

I work in parties....loud, hot, steamy, sweaty parties with all types of men and women.  Tall, short, skinny, muscled, piggy, overweight....all walks of life.  It's amazing.

I love the variety of kinks, turn ons, the tops, the bottoms, the pups, the sub slaves on leashes....it all adds to the flavor and the "realness" of being truthful to what makes you tingle.

But......and sometimes it smells like a big BUTT...the body odor can be overwhelming.

So here is my soapbox.  I like to be dirty when I am out mowing the lawn, tilling the soil, or cutting firewood.  I understand body odor after playing a game, running, lifting, or even dancing...but that's a different kind of body odor.....it's an odor that develops after sweating and it doesn't have that "peal paint off the walls affect" as the odor when someone refuses to shower.

Men will be men....they will develop a scent and thats fine....but coming to a party and not showering for two days before....REALLY!?!?!?!

There are people that I see at parties that I LOVE...I genuinely think they are wonderful people but when I see them I duck and run the other way because they STINK.  Not just stink...they actually smell like a rotten barnyard.  And on top of that they have no etiquite about body contact.  They will joyfully rub all over you like a deer in rut and after the encounter and hug of hello you too will smell like the bottom of used jock strap basket at the Folsom Street Fair.

So here are my recommendations if you are a piggy, stinky, proud, soap avoiding, dirty, gay man.  Do the Oprah hug and the Drag Queen kiss....no body contact required....love your hair hope you win...but don't touch my skin!






Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Teaser Image from "In Bed With..." by Kevin D. Hoover

Here is a teaser image from our "In Bed With..." series shot by Kevin D. Hoover Jared and I are sporting the Colt Collection Jock Straps in this series :-)

Get your Colt Collection Logo Jockstrap here!


Friday, April 4, 2014

Spunk NYC-April 17th

One of my new favorite events to work is Spunk at the Monster Bar (80 Grove Street Greenwich Village) in NYC.

Spunk is a weekly party on thursdays.  It gets hopping about 11 p.m. and goes till about 4 a.m.  Usually about 20 dancers are on hand to give lap dances, pole dances, and generally entertain the senses.  Luis Gomez is the promoter, Sir-Honey Davenport is the host, JJ Mack takes the pics, and Jonny Mack spins the beats!

The party is upbeat, sexy, gay, features strong drinks, big dicks, and bubble butts bouncing all night!
Private rooms are available for a more personal lap dance with one of your favorite hotties there.  Here is the event poster for April 17th as well as some pics from previous parties!  Hope to see you there April 17th!  Jared Bradford LeBlanc and I will be there about 11 p.m.









White Party Palm Springs-Seth Fornea-Official Gogo

Hi Guys,

This year I was chosen as one of the official GoGo's for White Party Palm Springs.  This is the 25th anniversary of the White Party!  I am super excited to be joining the in the legacy of the White Party Dancers.  Here are the promo images for my appearance :-)

xoxo,
Seth