The Awkwardness of Grindr in Raleigh NC.

I have to preface this rant with a few things before I begin.  I have a home and live in Raleigh NC when I am not working in other cities across the USA.  So my experience with Grindr, Scruff, etc is either in Raleigh (sorta small) or another major metropolitain city with an actual gay scene.

So here goes......

Gay dating apps....I have them....why because I like SEX!  Because SEX is fun, natural, and a part of my existence.  Because I wanna scope out the dudes before going out and see who is in town.  Because it's like online shopping....you get to see all the available treats before going to the store!

So Grindr in cities with actual gay nightlife like Miami, NYC, Chicago, DC, LA....is pretty standard. You log on and a plethora of profiles come up and it's pretty easy to find your type.  People are direct, they have actual pictures on their profiles, and they don't mistake a gay dating app for a social media site like Facebook.

However.....try logging onto Grindr in Raleigh NC.  I have never been served so much un solicited Hatorade in my life!!!!!

Constantly blank picture less profiles, landscapes, trees, pictures of diet coke cans, air conditioner vents, sidewalks, bamboo, beaches, and headless torsos try to talk to me.  WTF!?!?!?!

As stupid is that is...I can live with that...because I have no plans to send a "blank profile" a message.

What I can't live with is "blank profile" sending me a message like "sup".  I don't have anything against "sup" but for real dude....your pic is a "blank profile" can and your opener is "sup".  How about a pic of you.....because other wise WHY THE FUCK WOULD I REPLY!?!?!?!?!?!?!

Ok...that's one scenario that repeats itself over and over and over in Raleigh.  But it gets better....or worse depending on your sense of humor ;-)

After not responding to "blank profile's" "sup"  I am then labeled in a followup message from "blank profile" "you are an arrogant asshole who thinks he is better than anyone else and your are a whore!"

Are you following the level of stupidity here?!

But it doesn't stop there.  Raleigh also has a really confused self image and doesn't understand the idea of "types".

Types.....we all know what makes us hard...what makes us leak...what makes us twitch... ;-)  All of us have a certain look that we genuinely find appealing and that varies from person to person.  Not being someones type doesn't make your physically or mentally unattractive.  It shouldn't make you feel any less about yourself.  YOU ARE SIMPLY NOT THEIR TYPE!   You are still you and can get plenty play with guys who find you their type.

Tell someone in Raleigh they are not your type and all of a sudden you are labeled  a heartless bitch.  Which begs the question....have they never been rejected before?!?!?  I get rejected A LOT!  It's part of life.  I don't float everyones boat and nor do they mine.  Get used to it people and STOP the vicious name calling if someone tells you they are not interested.  It's not personal.

A wise friend once told me "For every person their is a bus that will take them there" and it's true...you just gotta find the right bus at the stop you are currently at and sync up.  Until then relax, scroll away, and stop reacting so violently to the word "no" or a non response.