Tuesday, April 28, 2015
The fairytale is honesty not butterflies
I'm not that old, I'm 33, but I think the most important lesson I have learned is how to deal with the those little delicate heart strings....and the constant battle they face with a brain completely capable of deductive reasoning.
Prince charming doesn't exist. The fairy tale is so bogus! Perfect breath and a spritz of cologne will eventually fade to audible farts and buying a bigger bed. You won't fuck like rabbits anymore, you won't get butterflies, and sometimes you will get mad as hell.
BUT, and this is the huge but I have to offer besides the one in my rear. If you have found someone who has enough love for you to be honest even when they are going to be a big flake then hold on for dear life. The fairytale is honesty. It's having a partner who values your time, your hobbies, your space, and your passions enough to know when to step in and when to step back. It's having someone who follows through or if they can't they openly state it so you are not going to be aimlessly counting on something that isn't there. It's having someone who responds...not just when it's convenient or behoves them but responds when it solely benefits you cause thats how much they love the partner they have in you.
So if you've got that, then the grass isn't greener on the other side. You have already cut the grass and made so many bails of hay in your barn that you can survive many many winters from the hard work and effort you put into the relationship in the beginning. So use the bond, use the honesty, and explore ideas together. Don't be afraid to break the mold a little...there is no right way to have a partner except the one you and your partner define for your relationship!