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Tuesday, April 28, 2015

The fairytale is honesty not butterflies





I'm not that old, I'm 33, but I think the most important lesson I have learned is how to deal with the  those little delicate heart strings....and the constant battle they face with a brain completely capable of deductive reasoning.

Prince charming doesn't exist.  The fairy tale is so bogus!  Perfect breath and a spritz of cologne will eventually fade to audible farts and buying a bigger bed.  You won't fuck like rabbits anymore, you won't get butterflies, and sometimes you will get mad as hell.

BUT, and this is the huge but I have to offer besides the one in my rear.  If you have found someone who has enough love for you to be honest even when they are going to be a big flake then hold on for dear life.  The fairytale is honesty.  It's having a partner who values your time, your hobbies, your space, and your passions enough to know when to step in and when to step back.  It's having someone who follows through or if they can't they openly state it so you are not going to be aimlessly counting on something that isn't there.  It's having someone who responds...not just when it's convenient or behoves them but responds when it solely benefits you cause thats how much they love the partner they have in you.

So if you've got that, then the grass isn't greener on the other side.  You have already cut the grass and made so many bails of hay in your barn that you can survive many many winters from the hard work and effort you put into the relationship in the beginning.  So use the bond, use the honesty, and explore ideas together.  Don't be afraid to break the mold a little...there is no right way to have a partner except the one you and your partner define for your relationship!

xoxo,
Seth

13 comments:

  1. Uhmm fuck me in my dreams. Love you so much.
    Eres demasiado hot papasito colorín.
    Tienes un tremendo culo exquisito.

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  2. Your comments are so true for a man who is still in his youth . ! am 56 and met my partner when we were 23 . Unfortunately he died last year after we had been together for 32 years. I still miss him dreadfully to this very day .We had good times we had bad times because that is what life throws at
    you. We worked our way through it all and loved each other more at the end than we did at the beginning. Believe me the butterflies were still there despite the farting and the bigger bed. Make hay while the sunshines , Enjoy every minute you are given together because when it is gone the hole is enormously consuming .
    This is a relationship , a partnership and needs to be looked after and nurtured to grow and flourish.
    I have been enormously lucky with my choice... his find...
    Now it is time for me to move forward on my own ...a difficult task but one which my friends are supporting me through.
    I wish you both Good Luck as you walk your road together holding hands xx

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    1. Thank you so much for this reply! 32 years of memories must be amazing!!!!

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    2. Believe me those memories are my most treasured possessions and reminders of many happy times we spent together !!
      Andrew

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  3. Andrew is extremely privileged to have the 32 years of memories that he has. We only knew Philip for a few years and feel very honoured to have been part of his life in so many ways. I am a massive fan of you (Seth). As you know friends met up with you in NYC just before Christmas so that I could get your autograph. Andrew is a friend of theirs too. Your blog today I know has resignated in Andrews thoughts and must have meant so much to him to reply to your blog, so thank you. I have shared your blog on my Facebook page as I feel that all you have said can touch many peoples lives as they have with Andrew. Your words are true and I believe that 'The fairytale is honesty not butterflies'.

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    1. Hopefully we can meet someday Adam :-)

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  4. I truly agree with you here! Love is not perfect in fact love is the opposite!.

    I have been with my partner for almost 6 years and it had been a rocky road. We are from two different worlds and cultures and that affects. The way we interact with people and even the way we were raised causes issues with us.

    I was spoiled and pampered by my parents, while he wasn't he is an american and I'm from a Jamaican-Middlen Eastern Family based in Latin America so our cultures are totally different

    We love each other, but we fight constantly, but then we ar like nothing happen. I learned that Love is arguing with your partner and be extremely angry but at the end of the day you look at him and you realize you can't be angry at him that no matter what you he is love one.

    I look at my partner and I know I am not perfect neither is him but we complement each other and bring the best of us. I remember people telling me we will not last but 6 years later here we are. and when people see us they say we are one for the other. Love is not easy love is a constant fight against your senses because you should never give up.

    Anyway love your blog

    Xrlie

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    1. Thank you Xrlie, loved hearing you story.

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  5. I could not agree more. The butterflies are the easy part. It's the after that is a true gift. Hold yourself to high standards - not just the person you are with. Being honest is important - and at times, difficult. But worth it.

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  6. this way to write and expression show me you¨re a real person and a great human being wih deep feellings; no changes you. and never give up.

    Love you the way you write.

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  7. The grass isn't greener on the other side. So true. And sometimes Prince Charming gives up a 17 year relation, and even honesty wouldn't save it. And you may say "Never again" and meanwhile he's trying his fourth-new prince charming-in-a-row. And he's still chasing butterflies. Thank you Seth. Better alone than in a troubled couple...

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  8. It's so refreshing and rewarding to read such truth and insight from someone so young ;-). I've been with my husband for 14 years, and it is real honesty that keeps us so closely bound in a loving relationship that defies any traditional conventions, yet I would measure it against any "Prince Charming" myth, or any monogamous, heterosexual marriage.

    I really enjoy reading your thoughtul and intelligent mewsings. Brains and beauty are always such an appealing combination. Keep it up, Seth.

    Your newest admirer, and follower on all of your social media,
    Fuzzytiger

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  9. It's so refreshing and rewarding to read such truth and insight from someone so young ;-). I've been with my husband for 14 years, and it is real honesty that keeps us so closely bound in a loving relationship that defies any traditional conventions, yet I would measure it against any "Prince Charming" myth, or any monogamous, heterosexual marriage.

    I really enjoy reading your thoughtul and intelligent mewsings. Brains and beauty are always such an appealing combination. Keep it up, Seth.

    Your newest admirer, and follower on all of your social media,
    Fuzzytiger

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